My teen has self-harm scars on his arm, what can I do?
According to HealthyPlace, an online mental health outlet, one out of five females and one out of seven males engage in some sort of self-harm activity such as cutting, burning, penetrating the skin, punching one’s self, or purposely bruising. Self-harm behavior can result from any form of mental stressors such as depression, anxiety, bullying, substance use, or coping with trauma. Fifty-percent of those who engage in self-harm has been sexually abused.
When parents respond to self-harm it is important to follow a few guidelines. Although it may be difficult, your ability to remain calm will be highly needed. The child already has enough stress, your display of shock and disapproval will only add to the problem. It would be highly beneficial, if you are able, listen to your child about their feelings and stressors in a nonjudgmental accepting manner. A parent’s display of empathy and love in a difficult situation can be reassuring and give hope. If your child has good, trustworthy friends, mentors, pastors, or authority figures in their life that can offer support utilize them as well. It’s not your job to tell these people what your child has done (that is up to them), but encourage building relationships. As much as you and the other forms of support can offer, it will still be no replacement for professional help. That is where we come in!
Crosswinds can offer an outside perspective into your child’s situation. We have the benefit of stepping into your child’s world without the drama that can come from being involved directly in the situation. Sometimes a third-party viewpoint is very valuable in these types of scenarios. We will listen and help guide your child to resources and options available to them. We will let them know they are not alone and not as unusual as they may feel they are. We all struggle with something. That is a good perspective to remember when facing difficult situations such as this. Jesus himself acknowledges that while in this world we will experience trouble (John 16:33), but through Him, we have hope for healing and an abundant life of joy (John 10:10).
If your teen is struggling with self-harm, we can help! Contact Crosswinds today to learn how we can help your teen manage and cope with these stressors in a healthy and productive way.
If you are in an emergency situation, call 911.