How Can I Stop These Negative Thoughts About Being a Mom?
By: Rachel Bowers BS; Region Coordinator
Let’s face it, being a mom is tough from the get-go. For those of you that doubt me, let me break it down for you. Your body converts into a blow-up fun house for the tiny little “bundle of joy” that you are incubating for the next 9 months. Your body undergoes unimaginable transformations both physically, emotionally and mentally. Your body and your bathroom scale will betray you on a daily basis. It is demoralizing. Yet you will still send your husband on those midnight Dairy Queen runs.
Finally, you enter into “labor”. The key word here is “labor”. Television would have you believe that labor last 30 minutes or less then “poof” a baby appears. I will tell you that the only “poof” you will hear is the brown paper bag exploding after your husband blows into it to keep from passing out, which he will inevitably do anyway. Labor is a long, agonizing and exhausting process. After all of this you finally meet your baby and suddenly everything that you just went through fades away and you are left in complete and utter awe.
Being a mom is a full-time job and there will be times when you don’t like being a mom and guess what? That’s okay after all you spend your day cleaning up other people’s vomit, pee and poop. You spend time preparing hot meals for your family yet your meals are cold by the time that you get to them. You are the first one up every morning and the last one to bed. You can’t use the restroom without locking the door behind you (and hiding the hair pins). You won’t have another night of interrupted sleep until you are 70 or dead, whichever comes first. Who, outside of someone in the nursing profession or a zoo keeper, would willingly sign up for being a parent with this as the job description?
I love my family. My heart swells for them. There are days when I feel like my heart is literally going to explode. Yet there are times when I feel so overwhelmed and defeated. As moms, we are so critical of ourselves. We are riddled with guilt and doubt. For example “Am I a good mom?” “What should I have done differently?” “Do my kids hate me?” “Are chicken nuggets really a food group”? The key thing to remember is just because you have these doubts does not mean that you are a bad mom or that you don’t love your children.
I think that being a mom is like a roller coaster ride. You get on board and hold on tight. You soar up and plummet down. There are turns that you don’t see coming but you take them fiercely. There are moments when you don’t know if should scream or laugh. And yet no matter how scared you are you know that the ride will end shortly and that you will survive it.
If you want to learn how you can be a better mom, contact us. Crosswind’s In-Home Family Counseling can help you be the best mom you can be.